Abusive Relationships

Although physical domestic abuse is the most serious and tragic form an abusive relationship can take, it is far from the Only one. Abusive relationships can consist of any type of abuse or ill-treatment.

What you need to understand when you think about relationship abuse is that you have the right to feel good in a relationship. Your partner needs to treat you with respect, respect your right to privacy and autonomy, and make you feel good about yourself.

Although the partners in some abusive relationships beat up and try to physically control the person they’re dating, even constant put downs are a sort of abuse. The bottom line is, the abuse doesn’t have to be physical, or even illegal. Anything designed to make you feel small, controlled, or hurt counts.

The abuser generally wants to control and dominate in the abused.  Usually, it takes place over a series of weeks or months. Slowly, the abuser will try to take more and more control over the life of his victim.

He may make her check in frequently, come home early, or stop leaving the house to go out with friends altogether. He may become jealous and suspect that she is cheating on him, or keeping some other sort of secret.

Usually in abusive relationships, the abuse increases as the controlling behavior increases. The more jealous and controlling the abuser feels, the more he will feel justified in hurting the target of his abuse. This can range from hurtful words to outright physical violence, and sometimes even leads to death.

An abusive relationship isn’t something that you can talk your way out of either. Physical and emotional abuse is deadly serious business.

The worst thing about abusive relationships is that they can be so dangerous to end. Sometimes, the abuser will simply say hurtful, terrible things to the abused she breaks up with him, but other times it gets much worse.

Abusers can threaten, attack, and even kill their victims when the victims tries to end it. Getting a restraining order and police protection can help, but it doesn’t always do the trick.

Sometimes, people have been killed by an ex-boyfriend who was not even supposed to be within 30 feet of them. Finding your way out of an abusive relationship can be one of the hardest things you can do.

Fortunately, there are more resources for victims of abuse than ever before. If you are in a bad relationship that you think is abusive, there are a number of things you can do.

You can go down to your local battered women’s shelter, talk to the police, get a legal representative, or even do some research online about relationship abuse. It still won’t be easy, but there are people out there who can help.


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